Charlotte Barrow

Emotional Therapy & Flower Essences (Oxford & Wantage, Oxfordshire, UK)

01865 712038


Frequently Asked Questions

I’ve had counselling/therapy before, and it didn’t really help. Why would it be different with you?
I can’t guarantee that it will be, of course. However, it is generally agreed now that what is crucial for counselling (or psychotherapy) to be effective is the nature of the ‘therapeutic relationship’, between client and therapist. In layman’s terms, that means if you click with your therapist, you’ll find things change (though it can take a bit of work). If you would like to come and meet me to see if you feel that you do click with me, contact me

Why shouldn’t I just nip down to a health-food shop and get the flower essence I think I need?
I guarantee that if you do that, you will think you need at least 30 of the 38 Bach essences! And your choice will be limited to, at most, two or three ranges in most shops. Like most flower essence practitioners I select the essences you need on any one occasion intuitively: this means that rather than thinking what you seem to need and giving you that, I allow your energy to tell us what will be most helpful to you at the moment, out of all the many essences I have (300+). If you would like this wide range to be available to you, then contact me.

Who do you treat?
I treat any age with flower essences, from a babe in arms to someone in their 90s. I also treat animals. The oldest therapy client with whom I have worked turned 80 in the course of their time with me! But usually people are younger…however, I rarely do counselling-only with people under 21. If you want to discuss your particular circumstances, contact me.

Can I do anything to help myself between sessions?
Absolutely! Many people find writing a journal invaluable, others like to use coloured pencils or paints to draw, doodle or daub. There are often specific things you can do, too, which arise out of a particular session.

Will I become dependent on seeing you?
No. It is my aim to help you live a life in which you can be emotionally true to yourself without being dependent on anyone else: in my experience, that independence allows us to form loving relationships with others. It’s one reason why writing a journal or drawing etc, together with any other things which come up in your session, are so helpful.

Are there any good books you would recommend?
I have some books which I am always happy to lend to my clients. One which I think is particularly good for understanding about cellular memory (the inner child) is Molecules of Emotion by Candace Pert. For flower essences, I recommend A Compendium of Flower Essences by Clare G Harvey et al. or Flowers that Heal by Patricia Kaminski. Susan Jeffers’ Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway is helpful as a reminder that we are all fearful, and it is only be facing our fears that we can move through and beyond them.


Short Thoughts
  • A happy life

    ‘A happy life is just a string of happy moments; but most people don’t allow the happy moment because they are too busy trying to get a happy life.’ (Abraham-Hicks)

  • Leaving your baggage behind

    ‘History, despite its wrenching pain, cannot be unlived, but if faced with courage, need not be lived again.’
    These words of Maya Angelou are as true of an individual’s history as of the history of nations.

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Success Stories
  • A happy ending

    Susan came to see me because she was unhappy in her marriage, yet did not want to leave her husband. Together we explored the roots of the unhappiness, and she realised that she was once again experiencing many of the uncomfortable feelings she had had as a child - feelings such as being ignored, put [...]

  • From the horse’s mouth…

    Sometimes there is nothing better than a client’s own words to tell a story- or in this case, the words of the client’s owner, since Morgan is a horse. Tamzin emailed me twice. The first time she said:
    Given the wind and gales this week, I’d expect Morgan to be very difficult (usually he would jump [...]